Forgiveness

The word forgiveness conjures images of wrongdoing, weakness and victimhood. If anyone is talking about forgiveness, something bad has happened, and all too often it is bullying.

A great deal of attention has been paid to bullying lately, and rightly so. Some states have even mandated reporting standards to track issues. Prevention is a strategic objective in the battle against it. But when that fails, those who combat bullying still have a formidable weapon in their arsenal to counteract its effects: the choice to forgive. 

Forgiveness has the unique, therapeutic power to restore strength to the weak. In the life of one affected by bullying, this can be potent medicine. The elixir of forgiveness confers power on the powerless and peace on the one who grants it. By choosing to forgive, we heal our own wounds. “Never does the human soul appear so strong as when it forgoes revenge, and dares forgive an injury.”  – E.H. Chapin

Ultimately, forgiveness can also be a means of preventing future bullying, as observed by Roberto Assagioli. “Without forgiveness life is governed by… an endless cycle of resentment and retaliation.” Forgiveness is a bucket of water on the embers of retribution. It’s a different way to even the score for those brave enough to choose it. There’s nothing trendy, sexy or fun about old-fashioned forgiveness. It’s been around for ages, perhaps because it is so effective.

Maybe it’s time to introduce today’s youth to the power of forgiveness.